This is my last post for Caring and Giving, and happily, it’s not good-bye! A wonderful opportunity
has presented itself. I could not be more excited about sharing this with all
of you, my very first blog followers! Today is the launch of my new weekly blog
on BrainLine.org. BrainLine is an award-winning national multi-media site
produced by WETA, the flagship public television and radio station in
Washington, D.C. I’m extremely honored to play a small part in the incredible
work they do. My new blog, called Learning
by Accident, will explore all aspects of TBI caregiving: the challenges,
joys, and the bonds that unite us through collective life experience.
I started my Caring and Giving blog in January 2009 while my mother lived with
us in hospice care as she fully lived out the last few months of her life with chronic
obstructive pulmonary disorder (COPD). As of that date, I had helped my husband
rebound from a severe TBI and seen my father struggle through the last two
years of his life in a thick fog of vascular dementia. I watched how it robbed
his memory, but never his jovial laugh and love of music. I wanted to
capture in written words, the beauty, sadness, and serenity of my beautiful
parents: the gradual unwinding of lives well lived; the slow deterioration of worn
out bodies paired with soaring souls.
Today, I cannot stop thinking about them. They
fortified me with their strength and encouragement. My father, a gifted
musician, continually told me to push on with my writing, and my mother, who
read the full manuscript of Learning by
Accident while in hospice said, “You must publish this book!” The lessons
they taught me live on—the most important one being, people come first—love deeply
and without regret. I watched them live this every day.
I published Learning by Accident within a year of my mother’s death, continuing
my Caring and Giving blog with a new
focus on brain injury as I launched the book in 2011. Since then, many
wonderful relationships have bloomed: at the Medical College of Virginia, VCU
Health Systems, The Brain Injury Association of Virginia, HealthSouth Hospital
of Virginia, the James River Writers, and BrainLine! I owe so much to more
people than I can name, and look forward to continuing my work on behalf of
caregivers, families, and the men and women who brave each day following a
traumatic brain injury—like my husband—whose tenacity and lust for life
continues to inspire me!